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I was born tall and proud
with a golden spoon in my mouth. I was one of the privileged
Americans, who were raised in the continent of God’s creation -
Africa. My future was
always bright and it was written on my forehead. When I
returned to God’s own country, the United States, I noticed two disturbing facts
that made me realize that the life a man lives was entirely not his own.
It appeared that one’s life was influenced by some level of external
forces, be it God, or the worldly system of man. I noticed
that the African American man was considered and treated as insignificant by the
American society, and that their women had no respect for them.
This was a cultural shock to me, because as a man, I was very important
where I came from. The level of importance for men was
almost the same all over the world, based on the multi-cultural books I had read
and the TV shows that I had watched. In order to maintain my
sanity and value, I had to pretend that I was better than the Africans who grew
up in
America, irrespective of
if they came on the slave ship or by choice.
When I was in college, I
realized that many African American women had no faith in marriage, so some
started their family early as teenage single mothers. They
claimed that marriage was for their European counterparts, because they had no
men of value to marry them. Instead of building value in
character and personality to secure a husbandly mate, it was more beneficial to
invest in their career, since they would most likely have to raise their
children themselves away from their sperm donors. Many of
them clearly stated that they would never find an African American man on their
economical and educational level. They publicly labeled
their men in magazines and conferences, as boys, sperms, big babies, penises,
and dogs. This was degrading for a man.
Despite the fact that I was raised in
Nigeria, I am actually an
African American man. I began to observe from my African
worldview that there were always two kinds of men – The productive and ambitious
men, and the consuming and dependant men.
I soon realized that the
African American women were more interested in the consuming men.
These men got all the women and sex they wanted, and helped to reproduce
many of the next generation at a very early age. This blew
my mind out of water because I was told growing up that the most productive men
got all the women. Why so much value on consumers and dependence?
I then noticed that many of the productive African American boys, were
either single or had European, Hispanic, or foreign women of African descent as
girlfriends. This was so disturbing that I had to inquire
about it and I found out that the women felt that the productive boys were
arrogant and felt that they were all that. I always thought
women looked for men higher than they are, but according to the book “A Calabash
Never Sinks”, a lot of our women look for men beneath them.
I was not worried because I knew some day that I would find out why women who
claimed that they could not find men on their level where more interested in
consuming men that productive men, who were not only on their level, but
sometimes higher.
Soon, I graduated with my MBA
and was ready to take on the job world. I even moved from
Ohio to
Atlanta,
Georgia to make
the best out of this fast growing city. My first job was
that of a Business Analyst. I went to work for a whole month
without having any job to do but was receiving a paycheck. I
felt dishonorable and unaccomplished and went to demand some work to do.
They would usually give me some spreadsheet to play with that was of no
value to anything. With much persistence, they finally gave
me a project that was far above my head. The director even
wrote me up for not doing the project properly.
Afterwards, she
asked the supervisors to show me how it was done. To God
be the glory, not a single soul in the entire department could comprehend the
project, including the director. An outside help had to be
requested for a project that was only made up to discourage me.
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The Political & Spiritual Purpose of the
Holy Land
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I left that job only to
realize that a good job that matched my qualification was hard to come by.
When ever I applied for a descent paying job in my field, expertise, and
salary range, I would never get a call. With time passing
by, I would apply for any job with less pay, just to get an interview and
ultimately pay the piling bills. Then, I noticed that I was
the most wanted employee in
America.
Before I knew what was happening, it seemed that I was beginning to
succumb to the culture of “settle for less”. To have income
that allowed me to put my head above water for the main time until something
descent came by became a gospel tradition. Nothing descent would come by no
matter how I applied. At the same time, a lot of productive
African American men were also frustrated because their sisters and girl friends
had multiple good jobs to pick from, but all they had, if any at all, was that
same little paying job they settled for the year before. I
eventually got a part-time instructor position at a college, which was pretty
descent. After my first year, which was above satisfactory,
I asked for a full-time position. I was told that they
usually required people to belong to a certain church to become full-time.
Before I knew what was happening, an African American woman, who was
teaching fewer classes than me, was given double the number of classes I was
teaching, despite the fact that she already had a full-time teaching position at
another college.
How come our qualified women
get jobs easily? They also get promoted and get to
management positions very fast. From observation, they are
usually in the human resources department. You would think
that they will assist their qualified productive men get into these companies,
but in reality, they usually ask the tricky and eliminating questions during the
interviews. It has become obvious that they might be
encouraged to play the “tough bad girl” role as part of their job, so that the
rest can’t be labeled as “racist”. After all, they can not
find men in their level to marry, so it is wiser for them to protect their
career than assist a man who is a social nuisance to them.
It has been said that since slavery days, while the man slave was in the field
slaving away for days without food or clothes, the woman slave was in the house
with the master’s family, eating and drinking the leftovers.
American has transformed from a physical to a mental and information society, so
the African American women now has access to the jobs and the income, while
their men are either unemployed out of frustration or settle for incomes below
their qualifications.
It then dawned on me that
after all these years; the American cultural perspective of the Black man now
came all together. The truth is that the productive and
ambitious Black man has no place in the American labor force unless he wants to
start a business of his own. Unconsciously, the African
American women have long figured this out. She knows that he
is most likely bluffing and isn’t going to get far, unless he can start his own
business. Instead, she caters to the needs of the consuming
and dependant partner, who neither has much nor can say much.
She takes care of him, his needs, and his babies, which gives her a
feeling of contributing or giving back to her society. To
her, he is her future partner for social value and not necessary her “husband”.
In the American unconscious psyche, the real Black man is a dependent
consumer while the productive Black man is an outcast, even to his females at an
earlier age. To the few productive Black men, who make it
through the cracks of the labor force to top positions, they are usually
powerless and toothless shadows, who are just grateful to be there.
Many know that they do not deserve to be there and they will do nothing
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